I once came across a saying that made an impact on how i see thing . it says. " We are good judges when it comes to the flaws of others and good lawyers when it comes to ours". This is quite deep.
When someone is wrong, it is very easy for us to see how wrong it is without taking out time to assess why they have done it. We are all imperfect beings trying to survive in this world filled with people of different characters, ideas, opinions, experience, cultures and what have you. All these can go a long way to shape how we think and how we see life. And at the same time, it can lead to a clash with other people who have opposing ideas to what we strongly believe in.
For a long time, i would let people get to me. But recently i have become a stronger and more considerate person. how did i deal with the world around me and become a happier and more accommodating person?
1. Stand strong in what you believe in: standing strong in what you believe in does not mean that you totally neglect the beliefs of others or their thought pattern but it means that you are so deeply rooted in yourself that you will not likely shake when the world around you come crashing. For example, if Jane smokes and you do not, and Jane wants you to join in. Standing strong means not smoking and at the same time not judging Jane for it. At the end of the day, we convince people with our character rather than criticism
2. Making excuses for others: Oh my! you should try this. Once i started making excuses for people on why they act the way they do, Life around me became calmer and saner. in the past, as soon as someone crosses the line with me, i would react even before their foot touches the ground. So if John decides to be ungrateful for a kind deed or take my efforts for granted. i wont make an excuse for John and tell myself, " i did not do if for thank you anyway"
3. Remember we cant all be the same: Life would be so boring!
4. Take yourself away from the situation : If someone from your family or friends is always acting out unnecessarily, try as much as you can to avoid them. Of course, we cannot achieve this 100% but the more you can avoid, the better for you. Keep conversations short and relevant to avoid disrespect or over familiarity which might lead to unwarranted insults?conflicts
5. Work on you : You might be the problem. consciously decide to treat people around you better and you would in turn gain a lot from the peace this will bring
6. Avoid Selfpity: I have had to deal with someone who always react to things based on the assumptions that things are done this way or that way because someone doesnt like them, someone is against them, someone is trying to attack them. e.t.c. The world does not revolve around you! you are not always on peoples mind enough for them to always plot against you.
7. Nobody is Perfect: Yes! nobody knows it all. Allow yourself make mistakes! Embrace your flaws! Highlight your strength and be the best that you can be. You were not created to be perfect.
xoxo Daminaija.
Article written by daminaija
Photo : google images
I have used this photo from the popular sitcom friends because it is such a beauty for me to see how they all lived with their differences :)
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